How To Get Your Ex Back – 3 Step Plan
90% of the breakups are reversible. Is yours?
Are you hurting from a breakup?
Does everyone you talk to tells you that it’s over, to let it go and move on?
But what if it didn’t have to be over?
What if you want to fight for this relationship and win your ex back?
My name is Kevin, and I am writing this 3 Step plan to help you get your ex back, even if you think your situation is hopeless.
NOTE: IT’S VERY IMPORTANT YOU READ ALL THE 3 STEPS. I HAVE SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU IN THE END
Breakup is a terrible experience. It leaves you in pain, feeling depressed, angry and often very confused. It is common to be needy at this time. But if you want to get your ex back, you will have to be calm, unresentful, and HAVE A PLAN. 90% of breakups are reversible and if you do the right things at the right time, then you will have your ex back in your arms.
I am here to help you devise that plan. Don’t worry, it’s not some mind tricks that you will have to play on your ex. Playing mind tricks is not the way to go if you want to have a long term healthy relationship with your ex. This plan is based on human psychology and how to use its principles to get your ex back. I encourage you to read everything in this 3 STEP PLAN and then take action. I can only tell you what to do, but until you actually do it, you won’t see any results.
In the first part of this 3 STEP PLAN, I am going to tell you what are the biggest mistakes that people make after they’ve broken up. These extremely common mistakes end up hurting your chances of getting back together with your ex. This is perhaps the most important part of this series so make sure you read each and every point and follow it.
#1 Begging, Pleading, Being Too Needy
Being Needy is Unattractive
After a breakup people make the biggest mistake of begging their ex to take them back. I know it seems like the right thing to do right after a breakup BUT IT’S NOT. In fact, it is the worst thing you can do at this moment.
Nobody wants to be with a needy person. Pleading and being needy is unattractive and is only going to push your ex further away from you. It will only make them think that they made the right decision by breaking up with you.
#2 The Doormat Syndrome
The Doormat Syndrome in relationships is going out of your way, sacrificing your own happiness to please your partner. It means accepting everything that your partner wants you to do without having any demands of your own just to get back with them.
If you find yourself saying things like, “Please stay, I will do anything for you” then you may be suffering from the doormat syndrome.
You don’t want that. Nobody wants that and for two very solid reasons –
a) It’s unattractive. Nobody is attracted to someone who doesn’t have their own opinion, needs, or their hobbies. So being a doormat will most likely be futile if you want to win your ex back.
b) Even if you do get your ex back like this, you will have an unhappy and smothering relationship which probably won’t last very long. And I am sure that’s not what you want.
#3 Text Terrorism and Drunk Dialing
Alcohol and phone DO NOT go together
This is again a very common mistake and yet detrimental to your chances of getting back together with your ex. People go out to have a few drinks trying to have a good time and the next thing they know they are calling their ex and making a fool out of themselves. Avoid this at all cost.
You have to make yourself scarce if you want to get your ex back (explained in STEP 2 of this plan). Texting them all the time and calling them just shows that you are too needy and don’t have anything else to do. As I said before, being needy is unattractive and you want to avoid this at all cost.
#4 Smothering Them With Affection
Saying "I love you" will NOT help your case
The logical approach to get your ex back seems that you should tell them how much you care for them and how much you love them as soon as possible before it’s too late. But trust me it’s not a good idea.
Well, chances are your ex knows that you love them and they know how much you care for them. In fact, if they were in a relationship with you, then they care for you too. But they decided to breakup anyways, didn’t they?
“I love you” and “I really really care for you” isn’t what your ex needs to hear right now. Smothering them with affection may even push them further away.
#5 Giving Them All The Power
At this point, even if it was your ex who broke up with you, you don’t want to give them all the power. You don’t want to be the one who is always available for them. You don’t want to be their contingency plan.
Acting like your life is over without your ex will only lose their respect for you. In the history of breakups, no one has ever taken their ex back out of pity. So, doing such a thing is only going to hurt your chances.
No one takes their ex back out of pity. Not even this kid's ex.
#6 Freaking Out When Your Ex Starts Seeing Someone Else
After a breakup, you feel depressed, angry confused, shattered, and are really hurting. At this moment, if your ex starts seeing someone else, it just tears you apart. You feel even more depressed and confused. And usually, when your ex is in this rebound relationship, they seem to become too intimate too fast, which makes it even worse for you, for example it took them 5 months to get physical with you and they are already sleeping with this new person who they are going with for only a week.
In this situation, DON’T FREAK OUT. Rebound relationships happen after a break up, it’s very very normal. But the good news is that they don’t last. And the reason why they became so intimate with this new person so fast is because it’s hard for a person to go from being so intimate with someone to being completely single. That is why most people (especially girls) will become intimate very soon with their rebound relationship because they are trying to get to that level of intimacy that they had with you. But usually, the faster the rebound relationship progresses, the faster it ends. They will soon realize that the new person isn’t right for them and they were just being intimate to quench their thirst for intimacy. And once they do realize it, they will break up with them.
Rebound Relationships are like Ice Creams. They aren't healthy and they don't last long.
So if your ex is seeing someone else, all you have to do is just be cool about it. That’s all. Sometimes, they start seeing someone else just to rub in your face that they are moving on. And you should not react to their relationship by telling them they are doing a mistake and they shouldn’t be seeing this new person. This is because if you tell someone to don’t do something, then you can rest assured that is exactly what they will do. In fact, if you do so they will go to the extent of prolonging their rebound relationship just to prove you wrong.
Instead if you do something opposite, and act indifferent to their new relationship and just concentrate on your own life (career, hobbies etc.), it will get them thinking. And their rebound relationship will end soon like all other rebound relationships.
Now the above mistakes look innocent but are fatal for your chances to get back together with your ex. So make sure you don’t do them. I know most of the advice I gave above is counter-intuitive, BUT IT WORKS.
At this point, you may be thinking what if I’ve already made these mistakes?
Don’t worry if you’ve already made these mistakes. Like I said, they are very common and chances are that most of you reading this would have already made some of these mistakes. It’s still not too late. You still have a good chance of getting your ex back. I just ask you to not make any of these mistakes anymore. If need be; print this page out and keep it with you all the time so you don’t do any of these mistake again.
Now That we have covered what you need to avoid, we can move forward to what you need to do. Click below for Step 2.
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Hey Kevin,
I am 19 and found my first love, and someone I can see a future with. Me and my ex just broke up a few days ago and I have begged and pleaded him to get back with me. He said he left me for another person. We are still friends and sometimes talk, and I want to win him back, but I am not sure what to do sense he is dating someone else. If you could please help, that would be great.
it can work out if you try give it time ma friends
After two year hiatus, my ex who tried for nearly a year after we broke up to get me back, and told me she was in love, now has been with a new Boyfriend for about a year. Her friend who I ran into recently indicated to me that I should talk with her, and that she was unsure as to whether she was happy in her current situation. I love her and decided to confront her at work recently and tell her and apologize. I asked if we could have coffee and talk more about this. She agreed without hesitation and said we’ll find a time next week to have coffee. I hugged her and we parted. It’s been a week, and I’m getting concerned. But everyone tells me to give her two weeks then ping her as there is probably a lot going through her mind. Also she has a current boyfriend and that is problematic. What is everyone’s opinion on the situation?
hi guys, i really need your help, ive been so confused these past few months, i had a boyfriend for 8 months and i can say that our relationship was the best relationship i ever had, he was more matured than me, and i can say that he was the one ive been looking for. All through our relationship we didnt fight, a month before our break up i felt that we we’re falling apart, usually we make sure to see each other every week but for almost two weeks we lost our track, though we we’re constantly texting but his presence is different, there’s one night when i felt so stupid, stubborn and so impulsiveness that i broke up with him, i know i was wrong but i just want him to say sorry and let me feel again that he loves me the way he used to be. but i was wrong, he let me go and never mind asking for an apology. i looked at him and i saw a different person, it wasnt him. i apologized for my decision and i begged him to come back but he didnt. i dont know what to do that night, he start to change the topic and trying to make me feel okay about the break up. we end up laughing and hugging each other but i couldn’t convince him to be back on track. it happened 8 months ago from now but still we have have communication, we still go on date and we hang out most of the time, i asked him why we’re still in touch and he said he is just doing this to lessen the pain i feel in moving on, basically his reason is he is still there to help me move on. tonight while im writing this message he told me that we will stop what we have now, that it will be better for us not to communicate, he said he was wrong that he stayed because it just added salt to the fire,. i know he stayed for some other reasons but im not sure of. help me, i dont know what to do.
I lost my girl about 6 months ago. We were going out for 2 years. Now shes dating this idiot who I already hated and im so MAD
Hey kevin,
Thank you for this guide. I’m a wreck right now, shaking uncontrollably. Its so stupid how I feel like I should do all those things listed above, knowing full well that they are the opposite of what I should do.
We’ve been dating for 2 years and its a week from her birthday. I don’t know what I should do! Should I ignore her on that day? Get her a present? Do something lavish? They seem right but I know they are wrong….
The thing is she was depressed when I met her, and i was there for her helping her through it. I finally managed to get her to seek medical help and now that she’s on meds she says its over. People have been giving her attention, and she loves it, and I wasn’t. It feels like she raped me emotionally – like I had to deal with all the shit of her being depressed, but know that shes better she’s moving on to someone else who’s now finding her attractive.
And the worst thing is I can’t even leave. We live together in a two bedroom apt with a friend and none of us can leave and let the other two pay. I don’t have a bed now and I don’t know what to do!
Whenever I see her now she’s smiling and txting on her phone and that just makes it worse. This has been the hardest week of my life and I know the next few months are gonna be hard too :’(
Can anyone have any ideas that in this situation is there any possibilities that i can get her back? :
She thinks that i’m annoying, irritating, thinks i’m stubborn. She told me that her feelings for me won’t ever come back already no matter how hard i try. What to do? How to get her back? Please. I need help ):
HI kevin . 4 years ago i went out with a guy who cheated on me & wanted me back , i was to sad to even consider it .but i still hanged around to try and make it work ,the girl that he cheated with did not leave me alone she kept on making my life a living hell, i couldn’t take it anymore so i left to live in brooklyn and started a new life …for the entire year later i worked & made lots of changes to my life ….after the year had passed i started thinking about what if i would have stayed & made things right instead of running , but it was too late he was in another country in the army …so i let it go . now it has passed 4 years and he is back for two weeks only …now i realize that the only reason why it was easy to try and move on is because i knew i wasn’t goint to see him anytime soon ….now i came to a point that i want a relationship and i know now that a guy like that will never make me happy …or is any good for my future …but my question is now knowing that he is here all i think about is seeing him one more time ..so i can let go of him completly and get my closer …but i dont think its possible to see him since hes leaving again in two weeks for another few years …how can i get CLOSER ????
hi…i did all the mistakes. made thousands of calls. msgd so much. misbehaved with her friends. she is telling me that i was her biggest mistake. she lied me a lot after meeting someone esle n the problem started then. n now she is in ful fledged relation with that guy. please help. i acted very cheaply. even went to her home at night.
For all Girls out there that are going threw a divorce, If you can get back together with your Man, then do it, cause I have went threw it to, and it has been 24 years and I am still crying bout it, and I also had to kids under the age of 15 and it just messed there life up! Even tho they are young and not crying about it now, does not mean it wont effect them in the future, trust me it will, and my kids have both been to jail and have got into trouble at a young age. So if you are reading this. Get back with your baby’s daddy!! If your want your kids to be happy, and Yourself to be happy!!
Yes this is true I noticed a change in my kids behavior and they are going down the wrong path!
Me and kyle are officiallly married ahah lmfao! true fact i hate indiana indianapolis f**k that state!
Hello,
My boyfriend and I dated for 3 years (which was on october 17th). He broke up with me 10 days after our 3rd year anniversary. All he said was, I dont want to be in a relationship right now and that he needs to find himself.
Heres the thing, hes been in germany studying abroad for about a little over 2 months now. So our relationship went from seeing each other eveyday to only getting to send facebook msgs to each other and skyping every now and then which sucked because his internet sucks. So there was nothing that went wrong at all with our relationship. Just out of no where he said he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore. He did this to me after our 1st year anniversary too. except for the difference was that when he broke up with me then, he said that he didnt feel the spark anymore and he wanted to see what it was like with other girls. then maybe less then a week after that we met up and he apologized and said he was so stupid and that he realized that i am the girl that he wants to be with. Now this time he broke up with me he said that he still loves me and that he doesnt want to be with any other girl. but he just needs to find himself. I feel like he is just feeling scared because he has been away from me for so long. this is the longest we have ever been away from each other so it is probably really weird for him! So i dont know what to do. Of course i am going to listen to all your steps. I kind of messed up one thing already though. I sent him an email just kinda showing him my affection for him. and asking him “how did you decide to do this when we havent actually even been with each other for over 2 months?” and just telling him that i understand he needs his space. and that if we were to get back together then i realized we need to give each other more freedom and i told him that he is not the only one responsible for my happiness. I sent this email to him a week after he broke up with me, and during that week we didnt talk at all. so i thought it was going to be the right thing to do to send him the email. i thought it was enough time. he read the email and basically said the same thing that he said when he broke up with me which was that he needs to be alone right now and that he knows that i dont understand but i will soon enough. BUT he still told me that he loves me and that he wishes that we could share our lives together. So im confused. I think I am going to deactivate my facebook for maybe like a week or however long i can handle it. Please give me some advise. Let me know if i am handling this well and if i am doing the right thing. I miss him and love him so much and its so hard to be away from him this long and then to be broken up with while hes gone. It sucks and i am heart broken. I really truly believe that he is that one for me. Oh also, two days before he broke up with me we were talking about spending christmas together with his family and he was really excited. and we were talking about everything we had planned for when he got back from germany and he was really excited for that too. I even remember him telling me a couple of weeks ago that he couldnt wait for me to jump into his arms when he got home. I dont understand. Please help me. I really need someones advise that actually knows about love.
Thank you.
Dear Tiffany,
Long distance relationship sucks. Sorry for what happend to you. But from what you said, that he just changed his mind in 2 days, well seems like he met someone over there – and he’s gotten distracted. So thats the only reason a man can change his mind within seconds. Sad fact but it’s true. Been through that myself twice and a friend of mine had gone through the same thing.
HUGS to you.
hy..my name is nidheesh.iam from india.iam a b.com student.my lover is a 12th student.she is staying in another state.My Grlfriend broke up with me since 3 months ago we were so in love with each other around 2 years, but we had some troubles.i said something bad about her family,because of my angry.so she left me.
After one week from breaking up I called her and asked her for another chance she refuses and told me that its over and there’s no love for me in her mind. After one month I called her and asked her to give me an opprtunity that and she told me that its over and hurted me again.
now the situation is different.she heard a news that,iam in love with an another girl.its a fake news.so now she contacts me everyday to know about that.but i didnt told her that its just a fake news.but she talks 2 me just lik frndz and she still says that she dont love me.what should i do?how i change this to love?please reply me.
please..pleaase…plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
having divorced after 3 months and moved away to start a new life met up after that time and he told me to think of him as dead really upset me and i havent heard from him since /. i still love him and we were married for 10 years but i had a fling with someone and i told him about .
Heyy Kevin.. My name is Christina And I wanna tell you my story so my Ex ‘s name is Frederick And I’ve went out for him over like i think a month and 1 week I guess He broke up with me because “I take life as a game and I treated him like a toy” Which I never did and do. So He messaged me yesterday saying “Would you go back out with me im just asking a question. I said yeah. And hes like do you still like me I said yeah I guess then I asked him that question he said idk im confused i think i lost all feelin but not sure.. I am getting over him now. So I’m liking this new guy and He doesn’t act like frederick.. Frederick is to sensitive for me and he’s too boring.. soo Yeah but I still kind of like 7% still have feelings for him and when he told me that yesterday that ruined my whole night soo Should I get over him or no?
hi, i was with my ex for about a month, when she said things were going too quick and she couldnt keep up. i was fine for about a week, then one of her friends asked me how i was coping, and for some bizzare reason i called her a “cold hearted heart-eating f***er”. i regret this every moment of my lif. i miss her and i really want to get back with her, but i fear it may be too late. what should i do?
hey,
me and this guy had been talking for like three weeks when he asked me out. we lasted three days :/ and a week later he got with this older girl. WHat would you do to get him back because he is the boy of my dreams and my friends tell me i deserve better and to move on but it hurts everytime i see him with his new girlfriend!!
hi Kevin,
i really need your advice. I did those pity and doormat syndrome thingy when my partner broke me up. Actually im a bit shy to tell this to you because i dunno if your advices will work for same sex relationship. Yes, my partner is a man also, and i love him so much. i dunno what to do. i wanna keep this private i hope i could talk to you through email. I feel that i am a dead man and will be born again when he;s back with me. please do the needful… thanks
Dear Kevin
my boyfriend broke up with me a 3days back,i tested Positive n was already sick in August,he first wanted a brake when asked him to n test.he said he went alone n tested negative,i dönt believe him coz he didnt want to show me his result.we were goin to hv our 3yrs anniversary on the 24 of October.i tried to call him n send him smses,i think i made him angry he doesnt even wonna see me.His family knows me.i thought we gonna hv till death do us apart.pls help i love him.
The only person i have ever said i love you to is moving to chicago and i don’t know how can i live without him both think its a good idea not to try a long distance relationship and tommorow is the last day were gonna spend together and i just don’t how to say goodbye any opinions.
hello.
i wanted to ask your opinion. i am dating this girl for more than a year. the problem is, my gf just broke up with me for like two weeks. she said she doesnt have feelings anymore. so i try to be her friend just like what she asked. but then, she get angry at me, and throw tantrums at me just because her friends told her that ive been talking about them behind their back, which is not true. so she said she hates me. she doesnt want to be friend anymore. so what should i do?
hi my name is maria and am frm south east london. i has going out wiv my ex for 4 month and even got pregnant for him, and we both realised that we r nt ready for kids yet so i took it out. The problem wiv my relationship was when we were going out his ex was going 2 his house and ringing his phone all da time and one day he went uni n never told me dat he is thinks that he love his ex and that he wanted 2 give it ago. 2 weeks later he rang me telling me dat he always tell his current gilf dat he misses me and that he thinks dat he love me n i should give him a week. wat should i do cus i love him
hi
my girlfriend broke up with me 2weeks ago outta the blue there was no signs of it at all,dropped her to work in the morning n she rang me that evening sayin we had to talk n that was that!! she said she didnt love me as boyfriend ne more but as her best friend and now i think she is seeing someone else what should i do?? can i get her back?
forgot to mention we were with each other for 3 and a half years and she also lived with me!!
Hey what should i do in this situation. Me and my first love always find each other and always running back to each other. Now it is so hard because we had a really bad break up because he wanted things i wanted but never sat down to tell me. I mean we broke up because he felt like he didnt see me alot. I told him i needed to take care of somethings respeacet me i neet some time and i will fully move in with you. Well he started to ignore me and push me away like he said i pushed him away. Im kicking myself in the butt and wish i could go back in time to fix it all. It hurts for me that ive lost my true fist love and always will love him. He told me he loves me to death wants to have a family with him and get married one day too as well. Well let me tell you it was going good i tried too hard and than how do u say all this stuff to someone and than go oh i dont got no feelings for you but you say u love me care about me and want all this with me. It makes no sense to me and i would like some awnsers. So im trying to ignore him to make him miss me. Plus they always say absence makes the heart heal. What do i do i cant lose him he means so much to me.
Hi Kevin,
I followed your steps my ex called mi after a month on nc we went out for lunch.she told me she missed me and she loved me but the problem is she is seeing someone else didn’t ask about the guy…well after the lunch took her to her house we kissed.it was getting uncomfortable so i had to apologize and i left..what does this mean will i ever win her over from this guy I’m confused….HELP!! WAT NEXT!
You did good. Just make sure that it is her idea to break up with that guy and you shouldn’t force her to do it. Keep seeing her every once in a while and keep enjoying together. Slowly she will realize what is the right thing to do. All the best!!!!
Ok so basically me and this AMAZING girl were going out for about a month and a half and we had everything in common, we both played the same sport, were in the same classes, liked the same music, movies, tv shows, hobbies, she was pretty much me except a girl and absolutely gorgeous. She was in a relationship before me with a guy for about 6 months, and then was in one with me about 2 months after they broke up. Anyways, we had a tiny little argument, seriously, it was really little, and in the end she said that everything was fine and nothing was lost. But she acted very different, and instead of giving her the space she needed for a few days, i CONSTANTLY was texting and calling her, which was a mistake. She then told me the next week that everything was done now and that she hopes we can be friends. I read over my messages and realized that i did sound alot like a creep, so i sent her one last message, and i made it clear at the begginning of my message that this was the last one, basically telling her that i realized how much id been texting her and how that must of made her feel trapped and think i was trying to control her, and that i was sorry. I told we should have some time to think and give each other a little time, and that i realized it wasnt the argument that split us up, it was me texting her. She sent a message back saying “Thanks David, i hope as time goes by it wont be so uncomfortable for us to be friends:)” so i know she thinks its over, so should i waste my time? because we had so many good times together and inside jokes and fun things together, i love her and care about her so much, and i dont know what to do but i would do anything to get her back.
If u starts seeing someone who just got out of a 4 year relationship…and u get with them after. 5 months..and only after a month of being together she breaks up with you…does that mean you were being used?
Hi kvein thanks so much for this guide it really helped me out.
so, I like this Guy… at my school, and he’s a good guy, christian, and good grades, adn has a twin… well I screwed up big time with him,and broke up with him, cause I thought it was weird… us dating, but now I regret it BAD!!! I am so stupid, I have been talking to him lately,adn I go to school with him, and we have been friends since after the break up,a dn I really realize now that, he is my future… we were perfect together,and I broke it off, because someone played me… and now, I want him back, but jsut don’t know how to get him back.. .he like me just the way i am though.. But I don’t know how to ask him out without it being weird… what should I do???
Me and my feanca been together over fifteen years. He keep telling me he need space. Then the calls were few I asked was he seeing someone he didn’t answer. T had a gut feeling something was going on never could give me a answer I told him man up tell me something. I said r u seeing someone he said yeh I ask do u love me no answer. Then moments later he called told me to go on with my life that he don’t love me. And don’t call him. I have not done anything for this to happen. I was very upset didn’t know what to do he turned his cell phone off so I won’t call him I’ve called his mother house where he stays she says he’s not there I’ve wrote him many of letters no respond havennt heard from him over three weeks. I really love him so much don’t know what to do. O jus stared working to keep me busy and my mind busy bi miss him love him want him. We were going to get married two months ago.
Hi… My boyfriend and I broke up (8 months) because some people where saying we cheat on each other and we break. We were dating for 7 months. He’s 17 now and i’m 14. I know that’s a while, but I don’t care. He kept saying you only live life once, but what he doesen’t get is, I want to spend my life with him. I may be young, but I’m not stupid. There’s no one else I want. I need help. He said we will get back together and even tho we are not together he still loves me. And he has a new girlfriend witch is my EX bestfriend.. What Should I do? just wait? Leave him alone? I’m not sure, considering this is the longest relationship I had.
Thanks. Please Help Me AnyOne Please
this is the exact same sitution im in…..he keeps on saying he still loves me and when he breaks up with her he’ll take me back…but it hasnt happened in 3 months…im doubting him…i wanna know how to make him break up with her…any ideas? i might b able to help u if u help me
Hey guys! My ex broke up with me 1 week before our 1st anniversary, now, about 4-6 months later I still love her like crazy! It was a really awkward relationship because I was an idiot. But I have changed, and I can’t tell her because it’s so freakin awkward around her. Now days we don’t even look at each other anymore! I can’t call or text her because I lost my phone and I hadn’t remembered her number.
Please leave me some advice!
I was with my boyfriend fir 8yrs
We have two kids together an this last Jan I found out he was cheating on me I hated him for a while an we still lived with one another up until3 months ago he is28 I am 26 he is talking very close to this girl from work that is 19 they have gone out and dated got a day an she called me and asked when the last time we hing out I told her that we hung out 3days ago . So that was two months ago he has come around hell hang out spend the night for like 4 /5 days then go back to his moms. Now the other day I went threw his phone an found He is stilltalking to this girl all sexual and we’re not together but I still love my husband. I told him I went threw his phe cuz he told me we needed to build on trust am that they were just friends an he’s using her to build our trust. And then this is Wht I find in his texts. I want him back but he seems to lost what do I do.. he is very mad!
So me and my ex have been together over 3yrs. (I was 16 when we started dating. Im 20 now). I lived with him for over a year. It was all good until one morning he was acting very cold towards me and told me he need time to himself and eventually broke up with me. He ended it in middle of Sept. I moved back with my parents. I was depress. I called him, txted him, msged him on face, kinda stalked him, trying to convince him to take me back. I never really understood why he ended it with me. I gave up and started workin on myself. Haning with friends was a good help. I went back to school and im exercising a lot. I STOP TALK TO HIM. I DELETED HIM OF FACEBOOK. I DELETED HIS FRIENDS. I CUT OFF ALL SORTS OF CONTACT WITH HIM AND GOT A NEW NUMBER. its been two months and out of the blue he wrote me a msg on facebook asking me how I was. I DIDNT REPLY. he wrote me today asking me what I was doing tomorrow. I just put my number. HE CALLED ME! AND ASKED IF I WANTED TO GO TO THE MOVIES. I agreed. Do I love him? I still do. DONT BE DESPERATE! if its meant to be they will come back. I dont know where this is going with me and him but Im stronger now. Now its my turn to make him wait.
My girlfriend that I have been seeing for almost a year now broke up with me the other day. We have broke up many times and its usually over the same issue. Me being crazy jelous and insecure. See my kids mom cheated on me and ever since I always try to catch someone doing something on me even when nothing is going on. If i call her and she does not call back right away or if i dont talk to her I freak out and turn into a phyco. Usually driving by her house to check on her or doing something stupid like sending a bunch of lame texts and calling. And she is usually not doing anything at all. She hates this about me and says it is pushing her away. Recently I accused her of cheating on me because of an anonymous text message i received from someone. Although now believing that it was someone that was lying and playing games with me. I blew up on my girlfriend without finding the facts out first. And she said she loves me but she just cant do this anymore and that im crazy.
Now I find myself mopping around the house sad and depressed. I text her a lot of “I luv you stuff” and “Im sorry” She says she needs her space and that if I love her then give her space. And that I cant just expect her to just forgive me so fast. I told her she makes me happy and she is my best friend. Which she is. She said I need to focus on myself and my kids right now and not base my happiness off of someone else. But I cant help it. The though of losing her drives me crazy to the point I got up this morning and did a stealth drive by on her place to see if she was there. I know I am wrong and just wanna change. I don’t wanna be this jealous person anymore. I want her back. She said she wishes she could be friends with me but not right now she don’t wanna be. Usually this stuff happens and we get back together shortly. But this time I think she might really be done with me. I wonder if she is as hurt as I am. I heard this NC rule is very important. But I cant go that long without talking to her. My mind will think she is with someone else or that the time apart will make her wanna move on more. I just don’t know what to do. But I know one thing I need to do is stop acting like a !@#$#. No more I luv you text and stuff like that. Im okay for only about a quarter of the day. the other part i just sit around and act depressed and sad. I cant even get up or get motivated and I have my kids all day every day as well. I need advice. Please help me what should i do?
My boyfriend,(or ex sooo sads to say, its been since beginging of august, and now its the end of november…) Josh was my first boyfriend, and I really miss him. We were at sleep away camp and I freaked out every time he looked at me (before we were together). My friends said I was boy crazy
. They all told me that he liked he too, and he even asked my friend if i liked him. she said to ask me out and see for himself. the next day he asked me out. and i was like OMG!!! 
he used to always hold my hand and have his arm around me. He was my first boyfriend, and I freaking miss him… :’( I broe up with him only because he lives in meryland, and i live in new jersey, and it’s really far. I think he thought that I didnt like him anymore, but honestly, I really like LOVED him. I think about him every day, and i cant stop. Its really horrible. The thing is, he used to go on chat with fb with me, but he doesnt anymore. he just ignors me, or its just really awkward. I doubt that he even thinks of me once a week. I honestly miss him so much. i never told him this. should i? i’m just so upset, sad, and confused. :’(
~alex
Ok, so me and my ex have been apart for a little more than a year, and now he’s dating somebody else and they just had a baby together. I moved on and now i’m with his best friend (which now i feel like was one of the worst mistakes ever…but fortunately there not as close as they used to be) but still after all this i still wake up thinking about my ex and at night he’s there in my dreams, I broke up with him and we had a really bad fight during one night of heavy drinking which lead to me telling him i hated him and never wanted anything to do with him and since that day we really haven’t had much to do with each other but i just cant stop thinking of what could have been or what could still be, I want him back in my life more than I want my life to keep going. I still love him I need some help and I cant talk to my one and only friend because shes my new boyfriends little sister…What am I going to do???PLEASE SOMEONE ANYONE HELP ME!!!
hi , there thanks for all the info on this web site .
well i have this question for you ?
. than he told me that he cheated on me with one of his ex’s but he was honest enough to tell me what’s going on and i love that about him the honesty was our goal in life . so it was really hard for me to accept / and to forgive him and we broke up for a while about 6 months . than for my birthday he wanted to take me out to our favorite restaurant , so i said yes . than after that i was still hurt and mad about the past but we had a relationship that was again great he was serious and told me he would love to marry me and all the goodys , but i just couldnt forget the past i was scared it might happen again !!! so i called everything off we broke up and its been more than 8 months , we both tryed dating other ppl and live our lives with out each other in it even thou thats hard to do . im still in love with him sooo much and i had the chance to be with other guys they where amazing but i just couldnt never give them my love . my ex is the first guy that i really loved he takes my breath away everytime i hear for him , or see him .and im his first love also, and i would love to know how we can start off again as a relationship becouse i forgave the past and i cant see my life with out him . like i said we havent talked to each other for about 8 months and now that we are i would love to know if there is anything i can do to show him that im still in love with him with out being a crazy woman / im a very independed women im in medical school and i have respect for me and him . so now my head is going crazy because i want him back in my life im so in love with this man and i would do anything to have him again .
me and my ex been together for almost 3 years we had an amazing relationship , there was respect , honesty , sillyness and everything else that made a relationship work out
so please give me a feed back on what to do because when i talk to family and friends they all say aww thats love !! but i want to be sure on what to do !!!
thank you for your time
Honestly , ive been in a realationship with my Girlfriend for almost 8 months now.. im not going to lie shes cheated on me once before.. its was hard to come back from that but i am like 16 and im very respectful and i guess im just really whiped right now , but i have an amazing bond with the girls family .. its undiscribable honestly this is the most amazing girl ive been with all my life. She WAS so amazing , idk what happened everything has changed my parents dont really like her much because of what she did but they still do whatever they need for me to see her and everything . I need help right now is a good example i txted her good morning and she replyed and thats all i got for the day and its 9:50 pm right now ? her little brother just called me talking about stuff because hes just in love with me and honestly i gave him my number just in case that id never see him again because i feel like this is going no where sometimes.. i all get iss sometimes pain but i try my hardest to make things work . i seem like i am the doormat . well today is the last text she getting from me because just like her parents told me to do im going to ignore her and make her come to me . Shes my first and im her first everything so far . we havent had sex but weve done everything else were both virgins but now shes saying it feels weird and she doesnt really look forward to doing anything .. but ive always told her id wait for her because its the right thing to do ? correct me if i am wrong please i want replies i want to control the realationship not be controlled… please please help ..
I forgot to mention i had a talk with her about the fact that , she said ”Heres the thing, i want you happy ALL the time” i asked her about it bring up the subject and i asked her what she ment and she said just that . i asked her if she thought she could make me happy all the time she said ” im pretty sure i can” i asked why dont you and she replyed with a shruged like saying i dont know.
Recently shes been saying i deserve better and that we should just be friends but ten she tell me she loves me and its literarly messing up my mind and thats why i need help thank you i think im just going to try all these methods , thanks to whoever wrote it… The weird part is that when i got with my girl she wasnt that cute honestly she had the best personality ive ever seen in my life i cant lie at all when i say i did not give her EVERYTHING she has ever desired… but i guess its my fault when people are too nice they get steped on … and I am not A RUG ! i need to take this all otu of my system i have a tournament soon and my team needs me .. thanks all your story really do help… i wish everyone best and i just want to be with my girl how everything used to be…
my boyfriend haven’t left me, he talks to me. Since we work at same place we meet everyday. He calls me also. But he says he can’t marry me, he is getting married in feb 2012. He says he loves me but can’t marry me, but earlier he promised to marry me. He knows everything about me….. Please help me i love him very much…… Please do help me….. Every moment is painful for me… I love him very much. Please help me…….
Wow does anyone here know how to speak proper english?? And 12 and 13 year olds?? Really guys?? You have no clue about relationships, little kiddy elementary school relationships don’t mean anything,
Long story short …I went of with a girl for 6 yrs started young around 17yrs old , eventually moved out with each other from one and other parents . We never fought or argued till finally something had to change , either of us didn’t even have a clue all we did was fight selfishly against our emotions instead of listening to them , we both said horrible thing don’t really remember them cuz far from rational . Did that for like 6 months ! Time flew ! But u don’t realize it till it’s over ! All those hopes on wanting to get back together , almost forcing it till it destroyed the best relationship I’ve ever had .
Now that’s a negative wayy of ending it or is it?
Now that I’ve lived through the experience and learning from mistakes will only make u stronger.
Now that mentality , chicks will love u and ur special someone will come naturally
Sorry I never proof read .
Hey people….someone please help me….my ex Tysen, well i still love him even tho i broke up with him…biggest mistake of my life. he says he still loves me, and i believe him, but he has anothr girlfriend and he doesnt wanna hurt her….how do i get him to break up with her?
Me and i guess now my ex was together for a year and a half starting off right after he graduated from high school but i had one year left in high school. We started liking each other when i went to his prom and my friend called him and told him and later on that day he told me he felt the same way and we made it official June 1, 2011. We made a committement and he said he still wants to be with me while we were in college. He’s not like them other guys that will hurt you he’s the complete opposit and is a very nice guy that treats a women with respect. This was a long distance relationship that was ok last year we were happy we always skyped and text eachother every min of the hour non stop and still do. His family is crazy about me and still is and his mom still thinks of me as soon to be daughter in law, she’s really nice his family is wonderful.He loved me unconditionally and still to this day he still does. He came to my prom and homecoming and always came home to visit me. This summer was fine a little rocky small arguements but wasnt as bad. Fun times when he came home.This year it’s just been a crazy year with his mom sellin the new house he not liking that he started off his next semester in college and his major is not fitting him so he’s frustrated with that so he’s changing it and he hasnt came home at all to visit but we still skyped and texted eachother like crazy. Everything was going fine with us. Two weeks ago before he broke up with me we just had normal conversation like “Hey babe” and laughs the he said” good night and i love you” the next day he was like hey there and it was odd and i called him and he said he wanted to break up with me and just be friends for now because the long distance isnt working but we can be friends for now because our situation doesnt allow it right now. That just hurt me so much like i got hit by a car. He says he still loves me the same as when i was his girlfriend and says that nothing says that we won’t get back together again just not now. He said he thinks i deserve somebody better than him that suits what i want and need and i told him that he was what i want and need and he told me the samething. I dont want anybody else but him and i told him that. He also says that he’s not looking for nobody else and doesn’t want anybody else but me. He also told me that nothing says that we don’t get another chance and he doesnt want to make this break up seem forever. A week ago he told me he was going to bible study and i asked him if he could pray that God will guide us back together and pick up where we left off and he said yes no worries that he will pray for the both of us getting back together. He still see’s us having a future together like marriage and kids and we still talk almost everyday. I just still don’t understand how everything just fell apart that quickly. Every day i cry and hold the I Love Tre bear that he made me at night and i pray and pray that got puts us back together again. I told my uncle that is like a father to me what happend and he said he knows that we will get back together again and then come yesterday he told me the that the other night that he had a dream about us getting back together. Now what should that tell me im just confused because nobody has ever made as happy like my boyfriend or is should say ex boyfriend has and he says he has never had an actual great girlfriend and has never been as happy either because i was his first actual good girlfriend better than the other two. He has never shared as much love with them as he’s done with me. Im just confused and depressed right now because i still love him and dont want to move on and he still loves me and doesnt want to move on nor plning on meeting anybody else. I just don’t know what to do or think anymore. Confusion
hey guys…i don’t know what went wrong, my boyfriend well now my ex boyfriend that i’m madly in love with went out of town for 2 weeks told me he’s going to call me as soon as he gets back after the 2 weeks went by and he didn’t call i decided to call then i realized that he blocked my calls..he stop replying to emails or text and we had no problem or anything i’m so hurt i don’t know what to do please help me
Hi,
I havent eaten anything for the past 3 days.
I wanna die. I cant live without him. Help me, please! He had an affair with this girl, I didnt. He has it for 5 day before I know it. He said he will dumped her, but he left me instead. He love me, just that, distance -,- What we had is real. I want him so badly. Even his sister and close friend thinks that way. What should I do?
Natasya,
You DONT want to die…you have family and friends who loves you. THINK about people you going to leave behind.
I know his sister & close friend thinks what you had was real BUT does he think what you had was real? If he does why did he have an affair and leave you?
He doesn’t deserve you…you have to eat something. If you were meant to be together he will come back and ask for your forgiveness BUT for now eat something so when he comes back to you are fit and healthy.
me and my girlfriend went out fot 6 months then she broke up with me that hurt like hell then we went out again for a month then i broke up with her for another girl that didnt last long THEN for the third time we went out the only reason i broke up with her iz cuz her cousin (that knows her better than me) told me to knowing i still love her. plus she wanted me to act normal about it around my our friends but thats the reason we went out so many times. and i cant stand not being with her somone help me :‘(
That’s what happened to me to. Me and this girl I truly love dated for 6th months. It was the first time I had seen her after my birthday and then she decided to breakup. I think she lied to me because she said that she doesn’t even have enough time for a relationship. I can’t stand this anymore and don’t know what to do.
isaac. I know EXACTLY how you feel. I broke up with my boy friend after 4 months. After 4 months apart we realized we NEEDED each other. So we decided to get back together. We dated for another 3 months before i moved 1500 miles away from him and had to break his heart again and all i want it to have him back. But he dos now have a girlfriend…..my advice to you is you need to be honest with her. she could be feeling the same way but doesnt know how to tell you. you make the first move and be completely honest. who knows maybe 4th times a charm. good luck.
I dated a guy for over a year. We were very happy together and really enjoyed one anothers company. Problem was I have 3 kids and can’t have anymore. Finally he said he didn’t want to string me along anymore and though I am an amazing girlfriend and everything that he looks for in a girl, he just can’t see a future for us. I want to believe there is still hope for us, but is there really??? He has texted me to tell me his misses me, but not sure he will ever get over the kid thing. Any ideas?? Oh, and adopting is not an option…he wasn’t one of his own.
I’m sorry.. It sounds like he loves and misses you but that his decision was well thought out and he will probably stick with it because he is thinking about his long term needs that you can’t meet. It’s not fair for him to give up his dream. I hope you start healing fast and next time don’t get attached if you realize early on that such a big compatibility factor is missing.
Hey guys, erm, my boyfriend recently broke up with me because of something silly that happened but then i topped it off he said i wasnt the same girl he fell in love with and i’m only 15 .. hes a year older than me and hes started college .. i really love him and i want him back but i’m not sure what to do .. he’ll give me mixed signals like .. he said he still loves me .. then he says he hates me and he dont care .. but i cant tell whether hes trying to hide his feelings. i saw him today and he smiled at me, i smiled back but walked off. what do i do? i cant get over him.
Grow up. Your both immature. Go find a quick one night stand and then you will feel better.
My ex broke up with me a while ago, but i am still in love with him. He also gives me mixed feelings like you said he will say he loves me then the next day its i hate you, lets me keep his hat, gives me hugs, asks me to kiss him, and everything. I am always pouring my heart out to him and now i told him that i love him. I don’t know what to do any more… I thought i was in love with another person but it turns up i was in love with what he said to me like telling me I’m his perfect girl, he wants to be with me forever, your beautiful, and A LOT more.. No matter how hard i try i feel like i will never get him back.. I am scared of dating anyone else one because I’m scared of getting hurt and two I’m scared hes going to think that i really don’t love him.. My bestfrann who introduced me to him says she regrets it because i fell in love with him.. I really have no clue if I’m supposed to forget about him or if I’m supposed to wait or what? My bestfrann is giving his best friend a note so he will try to get him back with me.. I am now friends with his ex who i used to argue with all the time over him and if i date him she will prob hate me cuz they dated for 5 months so…. Yeah but if you get help from anyone then plzz help me. I need to decide what to do! Sorry and i know how you feel.. (: Maddie
Okay my boyfriend Tristan was totally ignoring me this morning and when i came into the gym he didn’t even acknowledge i was there. And the night before he told me that he loved me and that he couldn’t wait to see me. He said that he couldn’t live without me and i believed it all, all of it. So we go to breakfast this morning and i sit by him and its all cool. but then when he puts his tray up i follow him. So he starts walking so i follow him and he doesn’t wait for me like he always used to do. And then he comes by my locker and hes like “Were Done”. And he told me y but it didn’t make sense. PLEASE SOMEBODY TELL ME HOW TO GET HIM BACK. I miss him so bad!
Hi, where do i start??? my girlfriend broke up with me on thanksgiving, she basically wants nothing to do with me. We had a big fight about something very stupid. That was the last time i heard from her. She wont answer my calls or texts. We were together for over 3 years, we lived together for 2 years. We also had a business together. Honestly i feel like my life is pointless without her. I love this girl more then anything in the world. Would love to marry her one day. I have a little bit of a trust issue with her. In the first year of dating she would be sneaky and talk to guys wether it was texting or through facebook messages. She also went to parties behind my back and recently told me all about it. Well because of all this i kind of became a little controlling. I guess i was doing everything in my power to prevent this from happening again. I am not a bad guy i just dont want to be hurt again. I really want her back but every time I try to tell her i miss her and we can make this work again she just says I dont like to be controlled and i want to live my life, but i dont want to date anyone else.
SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME
thanks
You said you had a little bit of trust issue with her. The truth is if there is no TRUST in relationship then there is no point for your to pursue this.
She doesn’t really love you. She is using “I don’t like to be controlled” as an excuse. I know it hurts, but give her time, and YES you can live your life without out. It will take time but one day you will be fine. If she was meant for you she will come back and if not you will find someone who you will trust and they will make you happy. For now take one day at a time.
Jeff girls dont like control neither they hate.for now you can just wait doing anything can jeopardise it further. I suggest you give her occasional calls, but dont nice talk her be normal,dont let your emotions flow, bec no one wants to be drowned.make friends female , on net anything ,i am not asking you to date but to engage your mind elsewhere and dont say it cannot be done bec it can be. Give her andyourself time. True love always calls itself back to where it belongs..
I feel your pain, I really do. She gave you reasons to mistrust her and you still end up looking like the bad guy. Most of the time once you take the pressure off her and give her some space, like 3 weeks NO CONTACT at all, she will willingly come back to you. She’ll forget the controlling, smothering feeling, and remember the good things that she must love in you if you’ve been together that long. I did the same thing in a relationship once but I didn’t give him any breathing room, just kept chasing and apologizing and I ruined my chances of ever getting back together. Be strong. Stay busy and keep your mind off her. Do not text her for any reason. Don’t apologize. She’ll come back in time and give you another chance.
Well i dont de love that existed between you and her but all i can say is send her a very powerful sms about the dificult and happy moments u both shared and let her know that the 3yrs was a teacher, if u like but do erthing to pamper her so tell u her problems and handle watever she tells u well.
I think she still love u. Same goes to me, trying to control her. Maybe sometimes u should ask her opinion and try to be tolerate. Mine 2 years already. I never went out with her, date with her, or even hold her hand in the public. but we always study together in the school’s library, eat at the canteen and joining activities at the school together. i was waiting for this year end after her final exam. but unfortunately she broke me after that. The promises that have been made were all in vain. I misses her like hell now. T^T
i had a bf and we just broke up just this nov.. i set him free because i always hurt him but i think its the worst decision ive made. i loved him and i want him back but he decided to leave the institution after i set him free. he told me he will love me forever..
Then Believe and pray for forgiveness from the lord Your God …and i can guaranty you he would surely be back but u need to work on the list up there practice them and u would see the out come to be a great List ..Thanks for reading ..God bless you and stop making him get hurt ok …
My boyfriend broke up with me because I let my 4 year old see her dad. He is upset because he dont pay childsupport, he is 2 Years behind but that is no reason for him to break up with me.
hey im jessie and me and my girlfriend vanessa is going through a really bad time i let my jealousy take over and now she is ignoring she says she still loves me and she would do anything to stay with me but it just don’t seem real anymore idk what to do im scared of losing her but at the same time i would be happy for her cause im 19 she is 17 and she is still in school i hate to put her through all the stress of not seeing me but twice a week someone tell me what to do
Theres this guy that I really like and we dated but during the last few months we started having a on and off relationship so outta being needy I had a fling with one of his friends and he later found out I guess so we just called stoped talikin for about 2 months and then we started talking again and we just acted like mutual friends but when we talk and meet all those feeling for each other come back… We just don’t know how o express it… I later found out via Facebook that ehe ot a new girl now I can’t even begin to explain the amount of pain I’m feeling…. I need him but i’m afraid to love again </3… I think I love him
Hey…Me and my ex really had a bad issue last year. This year, we decided to try to work it out again…(long story short, the year before he cheated on me with someone i knew) and this year, I just couldn’t handle us at the moment…and I dumped him.
Now he’s dating some girl and think he’s gotten her pregnant already! She goes to where I go, and…well, we talk-not about him- and she’s head of heels for him; she won’t listen to my warnings! What do I do?
Hey, i love a guy but he doesnt know i love him, and i really want him to be my boyfriend. We fought before a month or 2 and he doesnt want to be my friend anymore and i tried to get him back but i cant <\3 :'( plz help me if he forgives me i might make him love me !
I recently moved back to the city i grew up in. Last year i dated the guy that was my first love in highschool. we broke up shortly after. This year we started dating again and things moved real fast then all of a sudden he decided to go from everyday bf/gf to dating then to friends. we have been dappling in this “friend” stage for over a month and i dont know what to do. I even asked him if he would think about going out on a date again. Which he told me he would have to think about it. Still havent heard an answer. We talk everyday and see each other all the time. We act as if we are still together. BUT we’re not. I love this man but i am coming to the point i either need him to be with me or out of my life. yet i really want to win him back, HOW DO I DO THAT?
I am going through a similar situation. My ex and I are in that same grey zone of claiming we’re not dating but acting like we are. I think you should distance yourself and really act like a friend. Don’t make yourself constantly available. I doubt he really wants to just be friends. When he realizes what it’s like to not have you romantically, he’ll probably come running back. If not, then he just isn’t ready to handle a romantic relationship with you.
recently i just had a break up with the father of my little girl. he recently told me he was having another baby by some other girl that wasn’t me. he told me he only wanted one girl to have his babies. he is way older then me, im only 19 and he is 26. i don’t know what to do i love him to death he gave me a beautiful baby girl and recently told him i was pregnant again by him he told me he wanted nothing to do with me or the babies. his family wants us to be together for the babies and to go get married at first we both wanted to and i still do but he just doesn’t know what he wants some one please help me i don’t know what i would do with out him
Hi im Katrina and last year i broke up with my boyfriend..:(..Im 12 yrs old and going on 13 and I miss him!! Me and him used to always hang out, we’d always get in trouble together, and everything! Then, he asked me out and course i said yes but.. He became over obsessive… He constably was over me.. Then Idk what happend but i got really mad at him.. and i left him.. i totally broke his heart… I thought “Well.. Thats what happens in life..”..And i totally didnt care what he felt or thought..evertime he looked at me i would give him dirty looks..even though i was mean to him he still smiled at me…Then i moved on and i dated someone else. That made him hurt even worst, he was in depression for months! then i started getting in a serious relation ship with my new boyfriend and i thought he really loved me! but he dumped me 2 weeks later! Then i started to think of how my ex felt…. I suffered from my recent break up and from guilt of how i treated him…i want him back so much! then he decided to move on…he’s now dateing a popular mean girl at my school…Is it too late?
It probably isn’t too late to get him back, assuming that he knows that this girl is mean. If you notice him sitting with his arm around his new girl, but keeps stealing glances at you, then looking away quickly or holding your gaze with a smile that might pass off for dangerous, especially if he looked at you with his head lowered slightly, that usually means that he is trying to get you to notice. He is most likely trying to think of ways to get you back, first by trying jealousy. If it is jealousy, it probably won’t last, particularly if he didn’t show signs of liking her before you broke up. If he really wants you back, then after he dumps this mean popular girl, you guys are talking and he tries to act casual when admitting that he still likes you. Like if you ask “so _____ what’s up?”
“nothing much, just working through it.”
Or something else to imply that he wants you to ask for more information. Press for it. If you ask him if he still likes you and he replies with a little too much ease something like
“haha. Yes. A LOT. But it doesn’t matter. Youve already made your decision and I’ll respect that.”
Don’t let it end there. Quietly imply that you miss him too and talk for a while, and then, if you feel the time is right, shyly ask if he would want to go see a movie or hang out at the park, or do something else together. If he asks if anyone else is going, ask him if he wants anyone to. This is key: do not accept yes as his answer. Say: “you don’t want anyone else to go do you?” make it a statement more than a question.if he asks you if you want anyone else to go, say no, and plan a meeting.
Note: there are a lot of if’s in this letter. Generally, this is the way the cookie crumbles though and he is probably just as confused and hurt as you are.
He did everything just push me for break up. without reason he start ignore me, I call him once a day hi try talk very short and pretend like his very busy. He did not return call back during two weeks. before he was calling me 3 or 4 times a day and ask me, how I am duing.3 years he care about me and we wore happy. After two weeks, I visit him in his own office and ask him tell true, what going on, ask him do not lie, because I fill his hiding something. He did not tell me anything, just seat in his office chair and smile. I say how I feel neglect and he forgot my birthday…I do not remember what was my last word, I remember just I was talk very calm and close door very quit. After this conversation 5 days gone. He did not call back…I do not know what to do, I just cry every day and miss him so match …but something holding me to call him think he has someone new in his life. Sorry about my English and grammar.
my boyfriend broke up with me 3 days ago it was so hard for me that day it feels lie yesterday man i still have love for him but if i get him back i will feel like an idiot but really i said i wouldn’t go bac with him but i really loved him i trusted him deeply inside my heart really and he promised he wouldn’t brake my heart but he failed i don’t want to make another stupid decision.
Hey guys I need some help my ex broke up with me because he felt like i didnt care but i do . But now there is a BIGGER PROBLEM his ex girlfriend before me is now pregnant and currently there together but to be honest she isnt right for him she doesnt care about him she says she does but i think its all lies. I really want him back i understand he is gonna have a baby that MIGHT be his because he didnt have his parents together but she just isnt the one for him . He would come over to my house in the summer when we were together and he would be the one talking about marriage and kids and a life together now i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP !
So, me and my ex have been together for over 2 and half years. He is 2 years older than me. I met him when I was 16 and he was 18. We dated for nine months and because of our culture we were married. He and I were always torn by each others family during our relationship when we were dating, but we managed to be happy. When we got married, I was really happy to be with him and he was too. We lived with his family because we were so young and could not afford to live on our own. During the first couple of months of marriage, we were very happy but since we were so young we began to have problems, they were little problems but we later resolved them. But since we lived under his family we had to obey their rules, then they started controlling him and he began to lose love for me. In my culture a wife is supposed to be very active by active i mean clean and cook everyday, but I was still finishing high school. But since we are in America, they arent supposed to expect so much from me because I am in school, I’m young, and I dont have a job. His parents and grandparents always yelled at me and called me lazy. They blamed me for everything. But I didnt understand why they didnt like me even if I did the things they wanted. I knew that i wasnt the perfect wife but my husband loved me so I kept my hopes up. My husband would obey his family, all I wanted was for him to love me again like he used to. He began to neglect me and he lost his affection towards me. He was on and off with his emotions. At points he would be all lovey dovey with me and it would make me so happy, and at other times he would just be mean and ungrateful. I dont blame anyone but I know that he is very influenced by his family. They didnt like me one bit, (by family I mean his parents and his grandparents–his siblings loved me, I did everything I could to be a good wife for him.) My husband didnt even protect me. I began to break down. I wanted my husband to love me again. He does love me, but his family made him believe that he doesnt and that I am a bad person. He always told me that he loves me and that if I change for him first, he will make sure of my happiness. I gave him all of the time that he needed, I changed myself but that only made him distant from me. It got to the point where his grandparents and parents kept trying to break us apart. They said they would help me but they lied and didnt help me at all. Even my marriage advisors couldn’t help me. I didnt want to lose him, but in the end, his family made us get divorced. We were married for a year and a half.
Right now we are newly divorced, it hasnt even been 2 months.I tried to get over him, but he contacted me and then he and started to talk again. He told me that he still loves me and he came to visit me too even though we arent allowed to see one another. He told me to wait and be patient and that when we graduate from college that we can be together again. I am in my first year of nursing school and he is in his second year of pre law. Since he made me so happy again and that we were talking and helping one another out, I thought everything was good but things got suspicious. I then found out that he’s been talking to another girl. All of his friends told me not to worry, his friends want us to be back together too. But then one night he texts me and tells me that he is moving on and wants me to stop contacting him. He said that he wont talk to me anymore either. He then said that he was letting me go but he still loves me. He sends all of these signals, he’s so confusing.
The next day after that he tells me that he is going to ask that girl he has been talking for only a month This killed me becase it was out of no where and he asked me about what I thought about it. I dont know what to do. I dont want him to move on. I want him back in my life. I really really love him.
I know that if he is reminded of me and how much we fought to be with another then he will come back to me but i cant do anything at this point but wait until he realizes that he made a mistake and that he still loves me.
I want him back, We were each others first everything
me and my girlfriend just broke up, but we did not broke up becouse we didn’t love each other anymore but more becouse she had fights with her mother over me and that band is more sacred to her she sayd. I don’t want to be between her and her mother but i really want her back.
How can I solve this?????
i have been in a relationship with this guy for 2years and 4months. i broke up with him because his best friend told me that he was cheating on me with another girl i ask him if it was true he said no. so a week pass they come to me and show me his PSP when i look on his PSP there were the girl pic so i broke up with him . know my are heart are sorrow sore . sore no heart ave very bore. i really miss that guy i ccan’t get my mind off of him i am failing just because i don’t have him
We broke up for almost a year now. 2 months after we broke up he asked me for a second chance but it didn’t happen because he had a relationship with someone else. Do I still have a chance to get him back even though its been a year?
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